HEART TO HEART: Body Acceptance
Body-size acceptance is a process
Accepting our bodies, in their variety of shapes and sizes, is a difficult task for anyone in this culture. Someone or something is always reminding us that our bodies do not measure up. We must resist giving in to the cultural message that we are unacceptable and begin the process of accepting our bodies just as they are. Accepting our bodies is not something that happens overnight just because we wish it to be so. The first step in this process is to say that you are willing to accept your body exactly as it is today. Then consciously choose people, situations, and actions that support this decision.
- All bodies, including my own, are beautiful.
- I accept my body the way it is right now.
- I think about my body in respectful and loving ways.
Our culture’s thin preference is arbitrary
If you look at the preferred body types over the centuries, you will notice that the culture’s preferences change periodically. Eras of fashionable fatness are followed by years of fashionable thinness. The important thing to remember is that these preferences are arbitrary; that is, they have been determined by the whims of fashion designers and by the economics of the health and insurance industries. They have nothing to do with your value in the world. There have always been fat people, thin people, and in-between people. The culture’s preference for a certain size and shape of our bodies is not related to the real quality of our lives.
- My body is a living, moving miracle.
- I am a reflection of inner and outer beauty.
- My body is the perfect size for me right now.
- I am living the perfect life for me right now.
Excerpt portions are adapted from the book Live Large (Gürze Books, 2003) by Cheri Erdman.
Reprinted with permission from Eating Disorders Recovery Today
Spring 2008 Volume 6, Number 2
©2008 Gürze Books